I still go on from day-to-day unable to fathom the connection in my life between a lack of worry and growth in the spirit. The way many writers talk about worry characterizes it as a type of fear, and fear, it would seem, denotes a lack of trust. A lack of trust undermines our spiritual growth. Basically I understand this explanation and cannot reject it out of hand. But I feel something should be said in defense of worry.
I may be wrong, but as I see it compassion, caring, concern, empathy, and a generally healthy regard for the well-being of another (all traits I would consider exemplified by You) are oftentimes motivated by worry. It may be true that most worry is based on fear, but not all. There can, I think, be unconditional worry – worry with no “ifs.” – worry that’s based on pure concern – worry that’s based genuinely on love which says, “I worry because I love.” If there is any fear or lack of trust in this kind of worry, it is a fear of and lack of trust in myself. Where trust and reliability are most shaky is in me.
So, to worry about a particular outcome or the direction taken by others really connotes a worry about self – about how one will be affected and about one’s ability or inclination to be an influence. It is a fact that we are the weakest link in this kind of worry. Humility demands that we realize this. And, this weakness itself should be worried about.
We must place our trust elsewhere – in circumstances beyond our control; in Your control! The things we waste our time worrying about are the things we fear because we have no control over them and we may not fully trust those who do have such control. But this is exactly the situation You were in when You lived on this planet. If we look to You it becomes clear that praying over what we would worry about and trusting the outcome is the best answer.