Honoring our parents should go without saying. However it is something in these days that is overlooked and not followed as God instructs us to do.
Exodus 20:12 – Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land the Lord your God is giving you.
What does it mean to honor our parents?
Honoring your parents should be an important part of our lives. When we can learn to treat our parents with respect, we learn to treat God with respect. If we don’t honor our parents and show them respect then how is our relationship with God going to be? We should speak to our parents with respect, love not with anger, bitterness or expectations of “what can you do for me” attitude. Parents aren’t perfect, so sometimes what God has asked of us seems hard to do, but it is one that we must strive to follow. When your parents have showed you love, support and spiritually guided you it is easier to want to honor them. But when your parents have not been there for you in the manner that God states they should be and have left you emotionally, spiritually lost it is hard to want to follow this commandment but we need to remember that God forgives us of our sins and we must learn to do the same in order to move forward in our lives. Understand that God will deal with those parents that have not followed his command. But we must learn that by forgiving them doesn’t mean we are condoning there actions but making a choice to move forward by not allowing that anger, resentment towards them control you.
Take care of any widow who has no one else to care for her. But if she has children or grandchildren, their first responsibility is to show godliness at home and repay their parents by taking care of them. This is something that pleases God.1 Timothy 5
When my mother was diagnosed with a mass on the right side of her scalp that was cancerous all I remember thinking is she has been threw so much. We didn’t have the childhood that God would have wanted for us. We experienced thing’s that biblically goes against Gods command. I experienced the anger, resentment towards my parents and felt cheated before I turned my life over to God. Today when I look at my mom and see all she is going threw with her health. I don’t feel anger or resentment towards her I feel love, honored that she is my mom and humbled that she would allow me to go threw this with her. When you turn your life over to God and forgive your parents and learn to let go and let God your heart is regenerated and you begin to live a more meaningful life because it is no longer about YOU. It’s about what is pleasing to God. He is our armor, strength he equips us with the tools we need in order to live a life that is pleasing to him. I realized in my walk with God that I am not perfect and I have been guilty of sinning in my own life yet I cursed those who sinned against me. In order for God to forgive me I need to forgive those that have hurt me. I can’t imagine life without my mom but if the lord decides to take her home. I would rather spend my time with her supporting her and honoring her than holding the past against her. We can’t change the past but we can change who we are today and realize we are not guaranteed a tomorrow. My husband and I have recently been married and we are prepared to bring my mom home if she is unable to live on her own again. You could say it may be too much being that we are newlyweds but putting my mom in a nursing home or assisted living is not an option for us. I want to do as God states we are to do and that is to care for our parents when they are ill. This isn’t about what is best for my husband or I this is about wanting to please God and in doing so showing honor, love to my mom. We get so caught up in every day life and find our selves making excuses for not staying in touch or visiting our family/friends but we should learn to appreciate what we have instead of what we don’t and understand all the material stuff we can’t take with us. We need to work in order to support ourselves yes but we need to be there for our family and friends emotionally, spiritually, physically for them. I understand that in some circumstances it can be hard to forgive your parents and I don’t excuse those things that have hurt you but it is not for us to carry with us ..you need to turn it over to God. Today as I stand by my mother making sure when she is in the hospital or therapy that she is being treated in the manner she deserves and making sure her wishes are respected when she is unable to speak for herself. I am humbled and thank God each day for the blessings he has given me.