All we must do is love. But we permit so much to get in the way of doing this. We permit things that differentiate between those who are easy to love and those who aren’t.
For me it is helpful to look closely at what it is I most admire in other human beings. When I cull out the individuals of my acquaintance certain qualities pop out that endear themselves to me. The most salient is a loving attitude that reflects Yours. Another is the quality of humility, often construed as shyness or meekness. Another is a lack of concern for worldly goods and possessions. Still another is consistent effort in doing little things for others. Self-effacement and joyfulness are also in there.
So, the people I admire most are loving, humble, unworldly, giving, selfless, and joyful. How could anyone help but love such people? And that’s the point. You can’t! The reason is because such people are very loveable. But love is not made perfect toward such as these.
Then there are those who nurture, in varying degrees, aggressive or hostile attitudes, or are braggadocios and self-promoting, or who are know-it-alls, or who revel in their possessions, or who are simply misanthropic grumps. These folks are not so easy to love. The reason is because they are not loveable. It is toward these that we perfect love.
Yet, because I can see bits of this latter group in myself, I know that they too desire to be loved. It is toward them, as difficult as it may be, that the exercise of love confronts the conditions we force upon it. If I am loveable it is because I possess those qualities I most admire in others. If I am difficult to love it is because I act in opposition to them.Under both circumstances, however, I desire to be loved.
My hope is that those who really understand that true love is unconditional, love me not just because or in spite of the loveable or unlovable qualities I may possess but simply because I am, which is how You love us all and how I should love others.