There is a meditation by St. Ignatius called “Three Degrees of Humility” which actually deals with how we love You.
The first degree is what he calls the essential level where we hold no person or thing so attractive that for that person or thing we offend God seriously.
The second level he calls the logicallevel where logic dictates that we do more than not offend God, we desire to please Him in all we do.
The third level is that of folly where we are not happy to simply please God but wish to do things others would probably consider foolish.
It’s the level of logic and the level of folly I’d like to reflect upon here because I see myself walking a thin line between them.
For me, I need no convincing that there should be more to our relationship than not offending You. Love demands more than liking the idea of not offending or being “nice” to others. If we accept the notion that at the apex of love there is a lack of conditions – a pure support, care, and compassion based on nothing else that would profit us in any way, then we see the ostensible folly of love in the eyes of the world. To commit ourselves to that from which we reap no benefit is generally regarded as some degree of foolishness, and it’s humbling.
But if we look to Your example and to that of the saints, the “folly” of giving up and leaving behind things that others hold valuable and important is key to a loving relationship with God. To go deeper into a loving relationship with You one must be prepared to embrace the full folly of love – the folly of being ostracized, criticized and written off by others. If one seeks to amplify one’s love for you through others, this becomes most humbling, especially when the others though whom we seek to amplify our love for You are the very ones who most ostracize, criticize, and write us off.