Your love for us in not based on our love for You. This is difficult for us to grasp since our love for You is based on Your love for us. Would we still love You if You didn’t love us? Do we love anybody who does not love us? And that’s the point! You love us even when we don’t love You. This is genuine pure love. It is the love with which we should love.
You said, “Love the Lord your God with your whole heart, mind and soul and your neighbor as yourself.” But You never added – OR ELSE!You never said that if we didn’t love this way You would withdraw Your love from us. Actually, we are the one’s who block love. No matter what we will, Your love is there to be accepted or rejected – so should it be for us with others. We’re the ones who set limits and draw boundaries. We are the ones who manufacture the conditions for our love.
I have pondered before the frustration implicit in our inability to ever fully know and understand God no matter how hard or how persistently we try. We grow toward it but we never fully get there. It’s the same with love. We are frustrated by never being able to fully grasp it but we are able to grow toward it. In this sense God and love are one.
The human condition is imbued with a sense of incompleteness. We have a cosmic longing to be filled, to be completed. The fulfillment of our desire to love and be loved is the core of this longing and we know it will never be reached in this life. But that is what love is capable of: filling us up and completing us; and such love has no OR ELSE! This isGod’s love. It does not say or think, ‘Love me and I will love you.’
Loving like God is at once the most difficult and most beautiful thing a human being can do. And yet the best of us never do it perfectly. We must accept that deficiency, but accepting it we must not leave it lie. What we must do is summon what we are able of our whole heart, mind, strength, and soul to grow forward in love.