You know well that I have concerns about being loved. I am concerned that You love me; that my wife loves me; my children, my grandchildren, my friends and associates. I suppose it’s quite human, quite natural to be concerned about being loved. But it seems very clear that being concerned about being loved gets in the way of loving.
There are lots of other things that get in the way of loving: ambition, busy-ness, money, pleasure, passion; but maybe nothing so much as being concerned about being loved. Of course there are elements of this in all the selfish detriments mentioned above. Once again it all boils down to the “self” which is more inclined to receive than to give. This inclination smothers love.
Love is not about, nor does it worry about, being loved. We must trust in giving love and let go of concerns about being loved. To love we must concentrate on giving out from ourselves with no thought of what we might get in return. Our anxieties about whether or not we are loved should be redirected to center on whether or not the other is loved. To practice this daily is to be like You and that is the seal of being a Christian.