Try as we might I don’t think we ever get to the point where we fully understand another person. More fundamentally, and worse, I don’t think we ever get to the point where we fully understand ourselves. We have the ability to communicate fragmentary and incomplete knowledge of ourselves to others but it’s never complete, never right on the button.
The inability to be fully understood by others and the inability to fully communicate an understanding of ourselves to others is a frustrating and inevitable source of loneliness that comes with the human condition. In the deepest part of our being there is a longing to be understood. Yet the more we strive to be understood the clearer it becomes that it’s impossible.
You are our only source of consolation in this regard because only You understand us in the ways we cannot communicate to others. Yet, even this we are not fully able to understand. If only others could understand us, and we them, as You understand us. I can only imagine what that might be like. All differences, disputes, arguments, and confrontations would melt away because we could understand the other. We could see clearly their needs, desires, and hopes, With this kind of knowledge it would no longer be important to desire that everyone else feel as we do – because they would! And we would feel as they do! In fact, the loneliness that comes from our unmet desire to be understood by others would shed its source (the self) and be obliterated by our understanding and feeling for others. Such obliteration does not occur here. This is why the feeling of being alone in some annoying form will continually creep up on us. There is no escaping this loneliness. It is a sign of our separation from You that will only be healed by total union with You.