According to "The Free Dictionary By Farlex," FORGIVENESS is defined as:
"Compassionate feelings that support a willingness to forgive; pardon."
For most of us, this would seem to cover it. There's an apology, acceptance, and then moving on. Simple, right? WRONG!
How many times have we heard something like "well, I will forgive you, but I won't forget it." Perhaps we've even said these words to someone ourselves. If so, then it is time to revisit our "pardon," because if this is our true feeling, we've forgiven nothing at all!
Maybe it would do us well to consider how God defines the term forgiveness. He expands this act of pardon to include such things as renouncing all anger and resentment, a release from any penalty, on-going mercy, and infinite love for the offender. But the Lord doesn't stop there...
Consider the words of scripture found in (Acts 3:19)which says: "Repent therefore, and turn again, that your sins may be blotted out..." Now, add to this another similar passage found in(Isaiah 43:25) which says: "I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more."
Can you see it now; the diffenence between man's idea of forgiveness and that of God's? A true, full, and absolute forgiveness includes not only a pardon of offense, but also a BLOTTING OUT or completely FORGETTING what has been done as well! Until we have reached this point, until we have received this from another, complete forgiveness has not been accomplished.
If we call ourselves Godly people; people of faith, true Christians in practice, then we must do our best to immitate our Lord and Savior. It is inevitiable; we WILL be slighted by someone. It is also true that we will do wrong by others. These things just happen when dealing with so many different kinds of people with various personality traits.
What is important, however, is that we seek to make things rigtht with those whom we have hurt. It doesn't even matter if they seek our mercy, we need to make every possible effort to forgive AND forget. Isn't it true that "while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us?"(Romans 5:8).
People didn't even care that they had sinned against God, yet the Lord Jesus Christ was willing to die for us anyway, that we might have forgiveness of sins. If we believe this, and if we truely love our Father in heaven, then we WILL forgive others who offend us! It's all about love; it always has been...