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Issues with a friend..

Ok so I can first please start by saying out, "THIS IS NOT AGAINST ANY RELIGION OR DENOMINATION!" With that being said I have a big issue with a friend. She is a seven day adventist and is constantly pushing her faith on others and gets oh so mad when you say that you go to church on Sunday. Well she gets mad over a lot of things involving Christ. Some I could understand but others.. I once wrote a poem that was called, "Arguing with God." Because at that time I was. I know there is no point but I was mad and I was hurt and I wanted him to know it. Instead of turning my back on him I told him what was going on that was bothering me! She didn't like that. I got lectured for that.
I got baptized, I didn't do that right because it wasn't through an adventist church. She pushed to close down our high school and put up a new one and then decided that she doesn't want her kid going there! They teach theology as a fact not a myth and that she wasn't having. So I asked why she pushed for it so much? If it's good for MANY other Christian kids then why not hers? NO! Because she doesn't have a typical Christian kid. And that is what she told me.
I quit talking to her for a while because she is so pushy when it comes to God. Not that I don't think you shouldn't preach but I don't think you judge the way YOU think God will judge you! She has repeatedly called girls whores, sluts, and worse because of the way they dressed or a song they sang.
I told her, "Well you know people can change." And she went nuts on me telling that sluts like that can't change. WOW! Guess what?! It's been 5 years since I was sober and while I was drinking I did a lot of stupid things. I'm an entirely new person! I could have only imagined what you would have called me then! "Well you are who you are now and that is how I will judge you." How about you don't judge me honey?
If I posted a scripture on my facebook she would rant and rave and not stop about the meaning behind it etc. She made it difficult to be her friend. Finally she unfriended me and that is fine. I really don't care. It got intense. But I do have a few questions for her and I would love to hear her advice on it.
Then what shocked the most is when I tried to share on how wonderful God is I don't get a response especially when I am sharing stories about the kids I minister. I told her that she should bring her son up for cooking class. It's at the church and we give grace before lunch etc. But she won't come on the rez!! WHY?! She won't answer me. I get every once in awhile, "I pray that God doesn't condemn you to hell." WOW R U SERIOUS!!?? But she is! VERY SERIOUS!! So what do you when someone who used to be your good friend tells you are going to hell because you aren't perfect and never will be in the eyes of God? I would be perfect if I switched over the Seventh Day Adventist Church like he tells you to do in the bible. Then I'd be perfect if I followed their guidelines. But wouldn't SOME catholics tell me that as well? And some Lutherans? And some evangelist tell me that too? I mean the list goes on and on. Heck I am sure even some baptist yet would still tell me I'm doing things right.
So what do you do? What do you say to them? My saying so far is if I am doing wrong, then God please tell me. I read from my bible each and every night. I pray and talk to God all day everyday, I keep my Sabbath, I give tidings to the best of my ability. I minister through my church. So please if I am doing anything wrong then what is it? Just what is it?

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yalanda | Tue Jan 10, 2012, 11:01

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I can relate to your issue, because it is extremely frustrating when someone close to you of another denomination becomes pushy about their belief.  Even Jesus knew when to quit. There are several instances in the Bible when he moved on when he realized His Message wasn't reaching his target audience effectively. (I am too lazy to look them all up right now, but I can if you want) 

But to specifically address the Sabbath issue, please point out to your friend in "all gentleness and respect" (1 Peter. 3:15) the chapter Romans 14, specifically verses 5, and 10-13.

When your friend is ready to give a reason for the hope within her, she should also regard others in gentleness and respect, which leaves no room for pushiness and annoyance.

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