Letters to Jesus (Contrary Spiritual Notions) - 16
Love and compassion are more about not judging than forgiving. In the guise of truly unconditional love and compassion we tend to give a lead position to forgiveness. But we must consider what precedes the conditional aspect of forgiveness (and love based on it) which goes first toward its being unconditional – not judging! To render no judgment is to forego forgiveness. When we do not judge there is nothing in us to forgive. I emphasize in us (meaning our own interior) because in the judgment of another there may be something that needs forgiveness.
We are steeped in the notion of a judgmental God, judgment day, the general judgment, the goats and the sheep, etc. But all that is predicated of these images is no more judged or forgiven by You than the acts of the angels whom You also love without condition. The failure here is more like a failure to forgivethemselves – a separation and despair whose source is not You but is driven by the guilt of their own consciences. “Punishment” and/or “hell” is not a consequence of Your judgment as much as it is a separation based on our own choices and lack of remorse.
God as the judgmental enforcer who levels the measure of the law when we’re caught with our hand in the cookie jar is not the loving Father about whom You taught us. Being measured by the measure with which we measure is analogous to the compassion and love of God as the measure of “being.” There is neither judgment nor forgiveness here by which to measure – only non-judgmental, unconditional love. If we measure by judgment we judge ourselves. If we measure by punishment we punish ourselves. We need to understand clearly not so much the forgiveness of God as the acceptance of God.