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   [07 Jun 2011 | Tuesday]

Getting Married, one of the Biggest Decisions one Will Ever Make...

 

Getting Married, one of the Biggest Decisions one Will Ever Make!!!

When I was young as most young girls, I would dream of getting married one day. I think this is a desirer that girls have more than guys. I would envision who he may be, and how he would look.

I never got to know my father, my mother got married to my step-dad when I was 7 or 8 years old, she wasn't happy with him her husband, they would fight a lot. I remember telling myself, "when I get /married/, I am going to pray and ask God for my husband." I believed that was the only way that I would be happily married. Growing up around my mother, grandmother and great grandmother, I never seen any of them in a happy marriage, to come to think about it I never seen anyone back then in a happy marriage. But I believed it was possible /if/ God is the one that gives you your mate...

My first relationship with a man was with my son's father, I thought I was in love with him, and at that point in my life, I had forgot all about praying /before/ getting involved. And I was so angry and desperate, I didn't think God was hearing my prayers anyway. So to make a long story short, our relationship was a complete /nightmare/...

After many years of having one bad relationship after another, I remembered what I said I would do before I got married. After that when I would meet someone that I thought we may become serious about each other, I would start praying asking God if he was the man for me. As a child I believed when God puts you with someone it would be /all/ good, no bad at all. The older I got I realized that's not the way life works, but I still had faith that the only way that I would get the right man for me, it had to be God putting us together...

I knew that marriage would be a very important part of my life, divorce being what it is today, and me never seeing a good marriage growing up, it would take God putting us together and keeping us together. I would always tell my friends, if the day ever comes and I get married, you will know that God put us together. Before I got married at age 43, I had been ask many times, but every time I thought I may be with Mr. right, I would pray and ask God if he was the man for me, I would always feel in my spirit God saying no, I'm thinking will I know when yes comes. I came close to getting married to the wrong person, the date was set and everything, but I didn't have peace in my spirit, and I didn't want to marry the wrong person, then the day came when I knew without a doubt, "this is not the man that I have for you." He was a good man but he wasn't the man that God had for me, it took him a long time to forgive me after that, but he did. I am thankful that God knows how to get though to me...

As I said woman have had the dream of getting married one day I think more than men. When we start getting older and have never been married, we start feeling like something is wrong with us. I think that had a lot to do with me almost not hearing from God, it had started to be more about me and my timing and not God's. 

I believe when God gives us a mate, He gives us the person that will help us become better people, a lot of times to become better, we have got to go though a lot to get there, and it will not happen over night. That's were patience comes in, some times I think, I'm doing good with the thing called patience, then their are days I wonder "will I ever learn PATIENCE."

When you ask a person, why did you get married, a lot of times they will say; because we are in love, but as soon as things get /difficult/, thoughts of /divorce/ come up. If the /truth/ be told, a lot of times we get married for all the wrong reason, if you are open to see who you are, it want take long for you to see /why/ God put you with the person you are with. if you /love/ that person time will tell, if you don't, it will tell also.

So I will end with; keep your faith in God to see you though, when it's all said and done, you will be the person that God put you with that person to be...

By: Paula T.    

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