All of us that believe in God no how important forgiveness is, but if the truth be told, most of us have some unresolved forgiveness in out hearts for someone. When I read about forgiveness in the bible I think about the Parable of the Unmerciful Servant, Jesus tells Peter when he asked how many times should I forgive my brother, Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times”. In this parable the master forgives his servant, but that same servant goes out and want forgive his brother for the same things that he was just forgiven for; Matt. 18:21-35.
If we are honest with ourselves, don’t we do the same things? You wouldn’t think that the servant would go out and do the very same thing that he just begged his master to forgive him for. But he did and we do the same things all the time, but we can not see it, just like the servant didn’t see his actions until the master confronted him. We may say I forgive you BUT, when that BUT comes up, we are just trying to make ourselves feel better, thinking that we or doing the right thing. But the truth is, you didn’t forgive, and how do you no that you didn’t forgive your brother/sister, your action will show you when you come around them or talk to them.
If something happens to us or a love one that we feel was done unjustly, that is a door that opened and if we leave it unchecked it can turn into “un-forgiveness”. The bible says; if we have a disagreement with our brother, that we are to go to him and let him know how we feel (I believe that we are all God‘s children, not just the people of like faith). I have learned over the years that this works, and anything that I have tried and it worked, then I keep doing it. Forgiveness is just as much for you as it is for the other person, at some point it may be more for you then them. Without forgiveness it is almost impossible to feel at PEACE, and to have JOY.
Another thing that I have found to work is; telling the TRUTH, but you have got to no what the truth is before you can tell it. Like the servant, he didn’t really see what he was doing to his brother until he was confronted by his master. If anyone else had come to him and ask why are acting this way to your brother, he would have gave an excuse to justify his action. At that point he would have missed seeing the truth about himself.
Because I know first hand what un-forgiveness can do to you, I am always examining myself to see if I have any in me for anyone, before it can take root in me. Peace and love to me is the most valuable gift you can have, now that I understand that, I do all that I can to keep my peace in whatever comes my way.