Based on what you might already know from the Bible, what do you think the appropriate level of affection should be? Please read and meditate on the scriptures below. I hope it will help answer your question!
"And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect." (Romans 12:1-2 NLT)
I feel when you and your mate have love and respect for each other, you will no what is appropriate. We can go on and on talking about what the bible says, but when it comes to affection when you are dating you are going to do what you feel like doing. Hopefully you want do anything that will make you feel bad about yourself, God's love is here for us UNCONDITIONALLY...
Paula, it is absolutely irresponsible to advise somebody to do what they feel regardless what the Bible says! Are you playing the devil's advocate here? That's what it seems like to me! If what the Bible says is irrelevant to you, then why do you even quote scriptures in some of your posts? Answer this question for me please, is Jesus Christ the Lord of your life, or is He not? Please be candid in your reply. Your answer will allow me to know where you are coming from. There is no gray area when it comes to this issue. Yes the love of God is always there for us, but it does not grant us license to do whatever we feel regardless what His word says! We are always quick to claim God's love to justify and appease our willful rebelious hearts. But the question is, do we love God? We like to just be loved by God, but do we love Him back? That is the first commandement, by the way! If you can say "yes I love God, " then His word cannot be irrelevant to you! It is that simple. We have to keep it real and not deceive ourselves!
"Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body." (1 Corinthians 6: 18-20 NIV)
Well brother Louis it looks like you and I or going back and forth on this question, I thought I was giving my opinion to the young ladies question. Let me say this about me when it comes to the bible, I fee that anything that man/ego has something to do with you or going to have wrong doctrine. So for me, and I do have a right to my opinion, most of the things that the bible says about sex is wrong teaching. To me 1 Cor. 6:18-20, is one of many scripture that man/ego uses to put FEAR in the hearts of men.
I know what it feels like to want to please God, and I also no what it feels like being a young single woman having sexual needs and desires. Being told if you have sex before you get marred that it is sin, now if the truth be told you or looking for a husband for all the wrong reasons. That may have a lot to do with why a lot more Christians are getting a divorce than non Christians.
So anything in the bible that is used to bring fear, to me comes from man/ego not God. There is more fear in the world than you have love, compassion, understanding, and patience. Why do you think this is, I think it’s because we hear more about things that bring fear than faith… In the writing that I did called “Dose The Bible Call Sex Marriage’, I write about what I believe when it comes to sex…
You are not keeping it real if you think you can pick and choose from the scriptures which one is from God or which one is from men! My heart is grieved when I see people treating God's word the way you do. Many people were and still are willing to suffer, or die because they treasure the Holy Scriptures. Yet, there are those who have the luxury to trash the scriptures and still claim to somehow know God. I don't want to go back and forth with you on this. The point is you gave some bad advise to this young lady. The fear of the Lord is a healthy kind of fear to have. You should not fear anything or anyone, but you would indeed be wise to fear the Lord! The problem with our world today is we have way too many people who have no reverence for God!
"The fear of the LORDis the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline." (Proverbs 1:7) "But if anyone causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him (or her) to have a large millstone hung around his (or her) neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea." (Matthew 18:6)
If the bible stats what to do and what you should not do then DONT DO IT. People however will choose to do as they please BUT people (us) have to realize, choosing as we please may send us to hell. Personally for the level of affection I believe kissing is ok and hugging and holding hands, but if you cant resist tempation then do go to far with the kissing etc. Live life to please God and live life to go to Heaven. DONT do as YOU want do as God wants so you can go to heaven. Simply as that