Years ago when I gave my life to God I was told that I could know longer have sex until I got marred. Well that didn’t go over to good with me, I was coming away from a life of doing whatever made me feel good. Because I was desperate, I no longer wanted to live the life that I had been living, I believed what was said to me. I believed when you tell God that you want do things (whatever it maybe), that you need to keep your word, I knew that God sees and knows all, I wasn’t going to lie to Him. After the sister gave me that WORD, I had a little talk with God, I said; Lord you no that I am not going to stop having sex, but if you help me I can and will do whatever you give me power to do.
As a child growing up in the church, I was told that God hates sin, in Sunday school I was taught about hell over and over again, (I remember one Sunday coming out of class crying asking God to not late me die and go to hell, I may have been about 7 or 8 years old).
Because I had put myself though hell I didn’t want to die and go to hell. It didn’t happen over night, but the day came when I didn’t have sex until I got married…
I have always been a person that didn’t just take what someone said and ran with it, I never thought of myself as being naïve, if you said you were a Christian, I believed what you said was true. It didn’t take long for me to see just how naïve I was when it came to Christianity…
After years of living a Christian life and studying the bible for myself, I started to realize that I never seen any were in the bible were it said anything about a MARRIAGE LICENSE being needed before a person could have sex without it being SIN. I started studying everything that had anything to do with the word of God, to see if I could find any were in the bible, bible dictionary, the concordance that would tell me what was told to me was true. When you look up sex in the bible it give scriptures on health, hygiene, venereal diseases, prostitution, adultery, immorality, lust, certificate of divorce, a wedding party and marriage. In the bible dictionary; it talked about reproductive function of the human beings, sexual intercourse. The Old Testament records legislation that sought to restrict premarital and extramarital sex (Ex. 20:14, Lev. 20:10). I never seen were the marriage license was a part of God’s law. In the bible dictionary it talks about the union of man and woman as husband and wife, which becomes the foundation for a home and family. It goes on to say; marriage was instituted by God when He declared, “it is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a HELPER comparable to him” (Gen. 2:18). The bible talks about marriage was the joining together of two people so they become “ONE FLESH”. The only way that you literately can become one flesh is though SEXUAL INTERCOURSE. Some believers in the church thought marriage was ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY in order to be a Christian; another was that celibacy was superior to marriage; the third was that when a person becomes a Christian, all existing relationships such as marriage were dissolved…
Getting a marriage license became a part of the “law of the land” in I think the 1800, the reason for that was; if a woman’s mate dyed, she would be entitled to get compensation for herself and there children…
In the Jewish bible it talks a lot about marriage, a lady e-mailed me a lot of what there bible says you are to do. Here is a little about the Jewish wedding: Groom took bride to chamber, with wedding party accompanying them through the street. Group waited as bride and groom spent time together. (“yihud”-means “union” or “joined”). The “groom’s friends” and other witnesses wait for a signal from the groom (one source says it takes 18 minutes to nearly an hour). Context of giving EVIDENCE of VIRGINITY in O. T. Deut. 22. The couple doesn’t necessarily CONSUMMATE, just have Jewish wedding. In the Jewish faith there law seems to be a little different than ours when it comes to the consummating the marriage…
If a man and woman get a marriage license and don’t consummate (have sex) the marriage, they don’t need a divorce to separate, they can just get it annulled, so I am told…
I know what it feel like to be naïve, and I know how it feels to be deceived, I don’t like the feeling of ether one. So I have been on a quest for many years to know truth, it’s out there, it may take a long time to get it, but you can, the truth in my opinion is the BIGGEST FREER OF ALL…
When you have love and respect for yourself and others, you will do what is right, to me religion just put FEAR in the hearts of people at a young age, the fear made them not do things that they wanted to do, but in the end they did what they wanted to do any way. After they felt bad about themselves, at that point they just do anything. Why not teach people how to love and respect themselves, then they will do what is right, as the bible says “THOUGH LOVE AND KINDNESS HAVE I DRAWN THEE”…
I will end with; if there is any one that can show me form the bible were God said you have got to have a marriage license before you have sex in order for it to not be sin please show me…
Q: Why should we marry ? 1 Corinthians chapter 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 Nevertheless,to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
Hebrews 13: 4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Q: What is an unlawful marriage? : Same sex marriages Male with Male, Female with Female this is an abomination or in other words disgusting, a woman marrying a man divorced from his wife or a man marrying a woman divorced from her husband, marrying an close family member or relative, this is confusion.
Q: What is a Divorce? : It is a separation between a husband and his wife, separation between a wife and her husband.
Q: What is Adultery? : It is the husband forsaking his wife for another woman, a wife forsaking her husband for another man, any man who marries a woman who is divorced from her husband, any woman who marries a man who is divorced from his wife,( including sexual intercourse and lustful thinking in these cases).
Q: What is Fornication? : It is sexual intercourse between a man and a woman, a boy and a girl not being lawfully married.
Q: Can I divorce and marry again? : Only if you have married a close family member or relative, or you married a woman that is divorced from her husband or married a man divorced from his wife.
Q: What if my husband or my wife left (departed) and will not return to me? What should I do? You must remain single or be reconciled to your first husband or your first wife.
Q: Can I marry again? In the case your spouse dies, you are free to marry to whom you will only in the Lord.
Matthew 5:31 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:
Matthew 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Mark 10:11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
Luke 16:18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.
Romans 7:2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
1Corinthians 7:10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
GOD'S Answer for divorce and Reconciliation
According to the Scriptures
Jeremiah Chapter 3
13 Only acknowledge thine iniquity, that thou hast transgressed against the LORD thy God, and hast scattered thy ways to the strangers under every green tree, and ye have not obeyed my voice, saith the LORD.
14 Turn, O backsliding children, saith the LORD; for I am married unto you: and I will take you one of a city, and two of a family, and I will bring you to Zion:
15 And I will give you pastors according to mine heart, which shall feed you with knowledge and understanding.
Go and proclaim these words toward the north, and say, Return, thou backsliding Israel, saith the LORD; and I will not cause mine anger to fall upon you: for I am merciful, saith the LORD, and I will not keep anger for ever.They say, If a man put away his wife, and she go from him, and become another man's, shall he return unto her again? shall not that land be greatly polluted? but thou hast played the harlot with many lovers; yet return again to me, saith the LORD.But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.