That's a saying that has been around for some time, it's a true saying. When I think back on when I was young and thought I knew it all, when an older person would tell me not to do things that I wanted to do, I thought to myself, they don't know what they are talking about. Then the day came when I started to feel the results/aftermath of my actions.
As parents we try to keep our children away from anything that we feel will cause them pain. When my son was younger, I would always try to keep him away from the things that I did, telling him, son you do not want to feel that pain. He would always say; mom I have got to learn things for myself, he was right. He would have never truly understood what to do or not to do until he experienced things for himself.
As a person that believes in the word of God, I try to live the way the word of God says I am to live. I try to keep my faith in God, knowing that my son is a gift from God, in knowing that, all the things that may happen to him has a great purpose. I know that God is with him as He has been with me all my life, in knowing that I know that he is safe. When the test comes (and they always do), I can stop and say Lord is their anything for me to do, if not I will keep my faith in you.
The bible tells me that we are to live by our spirit, not by our sinful nature/ego. Because I have lived most of my life to please my flesh/ego, I understand how important it is to live by the spirit, if I want to live in PEACE. If I want to have an attitude of THANKFULNESS in whatever state that I am in, then, I need to stay in the NOW, that helps to keep my mind from being under the control of the ego.
The bible says in Rom. 8:6-8; The mind of sinful man is death, but the mind controlled by the spirit is life and peace; the sinful mind is hostile to God. It does not SUBMIT to Gods law, NOR CAN IT DO SO. Those controlled by the sinful nature cannot please God.
In Heb. 12:7,9,-11 it says; Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not discipline by his father? How much more should we SUBMIT to the father of our spirits and live! God disciplines us for our good, that we may stay in his holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful later on, however, it PRODUCES a HARVEST of RIGHTROUSNESS and PEACE for those who have been TRAINED by it.
When I think of being discipliend, I think of suffering, this body that my spirit and soul lives in wants no part of that. But now that I truly have understanding of who I am, and what the word of God says about my mind being in control, that helps me SUBMIT knowing that one day I will be as He has called me to be, BEARING FRUIT for the kingdom...
And the moral to this story is; Don't spoil your childern, it only handicaps them...