Letters to Jesus (Unhelpful Mindsets and Attitudes) -14
In the growth and development of a spiritual life there is a tendency to brand things as clearly helpful and clearly detrimental to the change of heart (metanoia) that we hope takes place. There is a lot of common sense plus a lot of available spiritual reading that is of benefit in this regard. One thing, however, I don’t think we pause often enough to consider is that there are a lot of things in our lives that are not bad or wrong but that, nonetheless, stand in the way of this “metanoia.” They become more prominent as one attempts to refine, tweak, and tune-up one’s spiritual life.
A person might not normally consider changes in harmless routine activities to accommodate another’s sensibilities of them as uplifting, but it could be.
There’s nothing inherently wrong with discussing something, offering one’s opinion, or asking questions, but being silent at these times can work powerful changes from within.
Material goods and possessions are pretty much neutral, but looking at them from a perspective of detachment and indifference can feed our spirit.
Then there is the simple matter of good will. Good will may be the best lubricant of all for a change of heart. Assenting within to live with and accept circumstances we would otherwise kick against and complain about is the hallmark of Your mother’s life and the lives of many of the saints. To be and do the best we can in situations not of our choosing is a Teflon-coating for the mechanism of growth in the spirit.