There is a huge part of the spiritual life that is tied directly to detachment. It has been implied that if one cannot be detached from everything one does or likes to do, one cannot lead a fully spiritual life. As much as my life argues with this and tends to rationalize against it, I cannot deny it.
Everything that absorbs my consciousness but does not include something of You attaches me to something else. I have gobs of such things in my life. The memory and imagination alone, all else aside, probably would suffice as attachments enough to frequently exclude You. It is very easy to be attached to memories and fantasies. Each thing, be it memory, imagination, idle talk, TV, pastimes, hobbies, etc., which are not inherently evil but to which our routines facilitate our becoming attached, pulls us away from You.
The spiritual life is not impossible, to some degree, with such attachments but it’s certainly more difficult because it allows for times when You’re left out. The premise is that the heights of spirituality are reached when we include You in all that we do, think and explore. I believe this is right, and that it is what The Search is all about – finding You in new places left by new detachments. Each time we pull away from an attachment it leaves a vacancy that we can fill either with You or with another attachment. It’s up to us. There is in this the potential of great spiritual discovery and growth.
There is still another approach to which, through rationalization about letting go of attachments, I am quite prone. It is the idea of seeking and finding You in my attachments. This, in one sense, is like a detachment from the thing as an end in itself. If I am so absolutely fascinated with such an activity as following sports that it occupies a large part of my time, I could detach myself from that proclivity by a loving act of the will and fill it with prayer. But I could also look for You and Your wonderful gifts and graces in the talents and skills of athletes, or in the spirit of goodness that is Yours in the pure joy of the game itself. A dower denial of all things in our life is like a shunning of its gifts instead of seeing You in them.