When we become intent upon showing our love for others and showing our love for You, we have to be careful that it’s not just the “showing” that we’re in love with. When we become truly and purely indifferent to the showing, our loveis purified from its source – You. Meister Eckhart says that we should not intend anything in particular in our loving. The just person seeks nothing by his love. If God is to make something of me, I must first become nothing. Doing this requires overcoming huge mountains of self-interest and of fear.
Our human inclination (our concupiscence) is very powerful at assigning motivation for our actions. It is the same with fear. So often we find it impossible to overcome our desires and fears. Our interest is in self-gratification. Fear too often makes us do what we would not. “Showing” our love can emanate from this. We may “show” our love because it satisfies us and gets us what we want. Or, we may “show” our love because we fear the consequences of not showing it.
Our love should be like Anthony DeMello’s lamp, flower, or tree; offering their light, scent, and shade unconditionally and without thought of “showing.” We must discover the love that is part of our spiritual nature – a love that shows itself without conscious showing. When our actions are habitually an outgrowth of our unselfconsciousness, love has no connection with intent – it just is.
We do not, at its best, show our love. What we do, at its best, is extend Yours. We are the channels of the indiscriminate love that is You.