There may be times when we ask ourselves what mode of thinking (philosophy of life) puts us in closest alignment with You in whose name we say we are Christians. Basically, there are only a few simple answers to this, one of which has to do with the putting forward of others rather than ourselves.
It’s good, in solitary prayer, to lose the self we present to the world. Equally good, though, is minimizing and hiding the self we would present to the world by magnifying and putting forward others over ourselves. The will to act in this manner is at war with our natural inclination to extol ourselves at every opportunity. We convince ourselves that others will benefit from us and their lives will be enriched by exposure to what we think, say, or do. How lucky they are to have us! With this philosophy we distance ourselves from You; we become “anti-Christian.” But most of the time we don’t actually realize this. We just go along as if we were the center of everything. Most of the people around us operate the same way. Thus we erroneously elevate conformity to a virtue and are content to live out our lives with ourselves at the center. We often proudly give ourselves full credit for the things we have accomplished without putting forth those without whom any accomplishments of ours would have even been possible.
Our disposition toward Your gifts is enhanced and becomes truer when seen through the instrumentality of others; others who should be extolled first before we say any “Thanks” on our own behalf.