When you work at a children's home you constantly worry about your kids' futures. Statistically speaking, if a child has not been adopted by the age of nine their chances of adoption drastically decreases. So when I heard that one of my eleven-year-old girls, M, was getting adopted I was ecstatic.She was finally going to have a real home. M was going to move in with the couple as a foster child until the adoption could be finalized. The night before M was to start her new life, we had a bitter-sweet goodbye. I was going to miss not seeing her smiling face all the time, but I was so greatfull that she would have a chance at a normal life. Unfortunately, two months after M moved into her new home, her new parents decided that they wanted to terminate the adoption process. Apparently M was having some behavioral issues that they didn't think they could handle. M is now in the process of moving back to the children's home. And M is not the only child with this kind of story. Children in the foster/adoption system get thrown around from place to place all the time. A child typically has an average of five foster homes before they are adopted, if they are even adopted. This is one of the consequences of living in a broken world.
I have no idea what I am going to say to M when I see her again. The only thing that comes to mind is that she can be greatfull that she has a Heavenly Father that will never abandon her or stop loving her! His loved is not based on behavior. It is an unconditional love that never fails (1 Corinthians 13:8). Romans 8 discusses our Father's desire for us to be adopted into sonship. He desired our adoption so much that He was willing to sacrifice His son so that we could live forever as the body of Christ. God's adoption is permanent! He will never give us back over to sin and death! He has set us free through His unconditional love! And that is the true definition of adoption: unconditional love.