The acceptance of friendship is Spirit.In order to convey something of the Holy Spirit of God we often describe it as the relationship generated by the love shared between the Father and the Son. I think it might also be said that in this sense the Spirit can be enhanced or diminished by the love shared between me and You. Thus, as Your relationship to the Father is Spirit, so is my relationship with You.
The Holy Spirit flourishes or withers in my life in proportion to the effort I make in nurturing and growing our relationship. The existence of the Spirit of God in my life has permitted itself to be predicated upon my acceptance and nurturing. As the acceptance and openness of the disciples had to be cultivated for the seed of the Spirit to grow in them, so too You cultivate in me, by Your gifts and graces, a soil in which the Spirit may be accepted and take root. But with me, as with the disciples, the choice must be made on our own.
The thematic element in many of Your parables spoke, by design, of scattered seed and things that grow; of vines and trees and wheat. You did this because You wished to communicate simply that the Spirit of God is something that must take root and it cannot do so without being cultivated. So, there can be no thriving relationship with You without the acceptance of our friendship – which is Spirit and must be watered and nurtured regularly. This, therefore, seems to say Your Spirit, in me, depends on me. If I say the Spirit of God in me depends on me, it sounds presumptuous. But You would have it no other way. The choice must be free and loving. You force no one. The Spirit is a gift, but gifts sometimes go unopened!