Our motivation for praying for another is often based on our perception of a “need” in them. I pray for myself to overcome my “self.” I pray that people dear to me might be drawn to You and daily nurture a connection with You. I pray for the health of the sick and the eternal repose of the dead. I pray for the success of people’s work and for their growth in loving relationships with others. I pray for the security and salvation of children orphaned by war and civil strife. I pray for understanding and growth in marriage relationships. I pray that God will accept my will to do what I would not choose because it is His will; and I pray to give thanks for the many gifts which God has bestowed upon me. All these things for which I pray are based on my perception of “needs.”
I know there are people who include me in their prayers. I know that what they pray for, for me, is based on what they perceive as my “needs.” I cannot help but think that if I knew the ways others perceivemy needs – the ways others pray for me – I’d know a great deal more about what I have to work on in my own life.
As I said, my perception of my own great need is to overcome my “self.” Others may perceive this in me too, but I think there are other things in me that elicit the prayers of others. I think patience is an issue some would include in praying for me. I think some would pray that I be less controlling and manipulative; some that I be more gregarious and social; some more caring and compassionate. But I’m listing these really as needs I see in myself and have no way of actually knowing if anyone really makes these prayers.
If I was somebody else and was praying for me, what would I pray for?