You have been best friends for many years, and have gone through some bad times, but many more good times and you know each other really well. In a way you have grown to be like each other, and in an uncanny way, you sometimes know what the other is thinking, and can even finish each other’s sentences. In fact, there is a comfort in that friendship which is hard to put into words because it goes so deep, and has lasted so long.
Then, out of the blue, another ‘friend’ tells you some things about your best pal that you never knew, and these are not good things. In fact, they make you cringe, and you are left with some questions of your own, and many problems too. You have been assured that you are hearing the truth, no matter how uncomfortable it sounds, and you have only been told these things for the best reasons, and to save you heartache further down the road.
What do you do? It’s a dilemma worthy of a peak time TV soap plot. Either way you will probably lose a friend, but which one? One has been at your side for many years and there was never a hint that anything was wrong, but the other is offering to help you by telling you the truth about that close relationship which they say wasn’t all that you thought it was.
A final thought. What is your advice if that special relationship isn’t a person??