It is important that I amend my faults that get on others nerves. But, if I say it is important because of what others might think of me, then I am once again pandering to self under the delusion of doing something good. But, if it is important because it is a way of giving - of showing love – then the value is placed on the other, not on me.
I know I have many faults that get on others nerves. I lose patience when I think something is not being done correctly, or when what I am saying is not understood. I am not above guile in manipulating others to get my way. I am prone to use sarcasm as a weapon and, of course, there are many more. What a great gift to others it would be if I was able to eliminate these things from what others have to bear about me. To amend such faults takes a dedicated effort. Exorcising these demons in my own life can be a loving and healing gift to others.
If I could learn to say nothing when the compulsion to do so is overpowering; or learn to listen without being patronizing; or agree with and support others when I see they need it rather than looking for flaws – if I could just do these things it would go a long way toward growing, nourishing, and supporting the lives of others. First I’ve got to will it. Changing things at this stage in my life always seems like such a huge effort even though I know with Your help I can do it.