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12:39 PM   [27 Jan 2013 | Sunday]

Leaving Perfectionism in the Dust

“If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done.”

Ecclesiastes 11:4

            There are a lot of people who are perfectionists.  We all may think that someone who is a perfectionist always works to get everything perfect.  This is far from the truth.  Most perfectionists have imbalance in their lives.  The imbalance creates depression and stress, which can affect their physical health. 

            Why do I know this?  Well, I struggle with perfectionism.  It has taken me years to get my perfectionism even close to balanced.  There are still problems that I face, because I don’t want to get anything wrong.  In the past, if I couldn’t get something perfect, then I would not try at all.  Today, as I was shopping for candy and costumes for my children (tonight is my church’s fall festival), I made one of my biggest breakthroughs where my perfectionism is concerned.

            As I was getting my shopping done, I was thinking about my goals and dreams that I have written down.  Although I have a lot of things that I would love to change about my physical appearance, I have more important goals and dreams that I want to accomplish.  These goals and dreams are becoming a professional writer and author of many books.  In addition to my writing, I want to have a public speaking career.  At one time in my life, I thought that I couldn’t be successful if everything wasn’t perfect in my life.  Now, I understand that if I focus on what is most important to me, then I will eventually be able to make the money I need to take care of the rest.

“Always dream and shoot higher than you know you can do.  Do not bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors.  Try to be better than you.”

William Faulkner

            We need to not focus on perfection, but focus instead on doing better than we have done before.  Every time we work on a project, we need to get better and better.  This means we need to work on getting better and not giving up just because we are not perfect. 

            When I started writing my blogs, I worked on them with a bit of hesitation, because I was scared that the end product wouldn’t be perfect.  Now, I enjoy writing my blogs, because it is my passion and I am not worrying about getting them all perfect.  The more I write the better I get and the more I enjoy writing my blogs. 

            This goes for anything in our lives.  As humans, we are not perfect, but we have great possibilities if we work hard and don’t give into perfectionism.  As long as we do the best we can and learn from our mistakes, we will grow and develop the skills we need for each project.  Failure is a part of life, so we do not need to fear failure.  Actually, we need to have a healthy respect for failure and making our own mistakes.  This is why children, who are not allowed to make mistakes, do not know how to learn from them and succeed in life.


“In order to go on living one must try to escape death involved in perfectionism.”

Hannah Arendt

            There are three characteristics that help with perfectionism.  At least, they are helping me to ignore perfectionism and strive to succeed at my goals and dreams.  These three characteristics are determination, diligence, and patience.  When I put these characteristics into practice, I can work with more ease at even the hardest projects.

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