[beautifulxdisastero7]

i've been with my boyfriend for going on 3 years. we have a baby together. he's catholic and i'm christian. he believes that if you love someone and are just with that person that it's okay to have sex before you're married. i was taught different. well, something happened recently that is kind of personal. but it made me think that maybe God did it to show me i need to stop having sex until i get married. we are getting married really soon. soon as in a month or less. anyways after this happened i told myself and God that i would stop and wait til we did get married. i was so strong about it. but this weekend i messed up and had sex and now i feel so horrible. i asked for forgiveness but i'm scared God is getting tired of me asking since i ask everytime i have sex. does he forgive me? is my boyfriend right about its okay if you love someone and are about to marry them? if it isn't okay i need prayer for strength to stop giving in to temptation. thanks for your answers.

Dear Stereo7---The past happened because you are human and God loves humans. It is likely that in God's eyes the two of you are already married anyway. Marriage is just a witnessing of the event for humans eyes. God's eyes are what's important. So relax. Stress and guilt is not good for you, the baby or your hubby. Continue your "marriage" until it gets formalized and be happy.
As as you go through life, REMEMBER how much of a human you have been and be loving and forgiving of those who are just the same.

love and good fortune to the three of you

antonio

I'm a wise, young doctor, not mccauley calkins

[DrFrank]

I thought I would be able to come up with a really terrific theological answer to this request for information but the message above encouraging this girl to keep sinning even though the Bible states that fornication is grounds for condemning people to hell has made me so upset that I have lost my train of thought.Fortunately the Holy Spirit is telling me that God has a reply for this girl so let me get that first before I try to recapture my prior thoughts.

"GO NOW.I AM CALLING YOU.DO NOT PAY ATTENTION TO MAN'S LAWS."

Now I'm really thrown off!What?This appears to be what's referred to a call to ministry.I'm certain that the last line has meaning to the girl who wrote the message which is good news because I have oh wait,here it is,the Holy Spirit just explained it to me;the law that some churches have prohibiting female ministers!Wow!! And I thought we were talking about premarital sex here!YOU HAVE BEEN CALLED TO BECOME A MINISTER!Rejoice in the lord!I sure had no idea what I was getting into on this one!! Well at least that answers your big question,obviously GOD DOES FORGIVE YOU!

Ok can I now please start talking about sex again without any more interruptions?You know what?Since you're going to very quickly start training for the ministry,you better start following Christian teachings.Makes sense doesn't it?God has just called you to a Christian leadership position so please make your personal life reflect your new responsibilities.Oh and your question about repeatedly asking for forgiveness and then repeatedly sinning;that's one of major gripes against Christians but now the Holy Spirit is telling me that God has forgiven you so I guess my opinions don't pertain to you.You don't think God is disagreeing with me do you?I just hate it when that happens.You sure are one lucky chick;I was going to give you holy hell but the Holy Spirit has totally messed up my message.Ok God I'm leaving now.Should have happened about 12 lines ago right?SHE IS ALL YOURS LORD,USE HER TALENTS FOR YOUR GLORY AMEN!!

Ok now its time for you start praising God.He is giving you a new life!Start now.......................

Originally Posted by beautifulxdisastero7

i've been with my boyfriend for going on 3 years. we have a baby together. he's catholic and i'm christian. he believes that if you love someone and are just with that person that it's okay to have sex before you're married. i was taught different. well, something happened recently that is kind of personal. but it made me think that maybe God did it to show me i need to stop having sex until i get married. we are getting married really soon. soon as in a month or less. anyways after this happened i told myself and God that i would stop and wait til we did get married. i was so strong about it. but this weekend i messed up and had sex and now i feel so horrible. i asked for forgiveness but i'm scared God is getting tired of me asking since i ask everytime i have sex. does he forgive me? is my boyfriend right about its okay if you love someone and are about to marry them? if it isn't okay i need prayer for strength to stop giving in to temptation. thanks for your answers.

Hello friend.

I would like to start by saying we should always look to the bible for our answers and listen to the voice of God.
To tell you that you are not sinning as antonio wrote well that would be a lie and I think you know that. If you thought it was ok you would not have made a post.

The other guy is saying something but I cannot tell exactly what it is.

Gods word tells us that any sex before marraige is fornication. I know this because Im guilty of the same thing. My first child was born before my wife and I were married. It was a very hard time of guilt and conviction for me. We were married shortly after his birth and have been together 12 years with 3 kids now. But I will admit nothing was right in my life until we got married and stopped commiting fornication.

So again my advice would be to read and pray to God and find your answer. And remember Gods loves you and will always forgive you. But your relationship with him will suffer if you live in disobedience.

Hope that helps

Originally Posted by beautifulxdisastero7

i've been with my boyfriend for going on 3 years. we have a baby together. he's catholic and i'm christian. he believes that if you love someone and are just with that person that it's okay to have sex before you're married. i was taught different. well, something happened recently that is kind of personal. but it made me think that maybe God did it to show me i need to stop having sex until i get married. we are getting married really soon. soon as in a month or less. anyways after this happened i told myself and God that i would stop and wait til we did get married. i was so strong about it. but this weekend i messed up and had sex and now i feel so horrible. i asked for forgiveness but i'm scared God is getting tired of me asking since i ask everytime i have sex. does he forgive me? is my boyfriend right about its okay if you love someone and are about to marry them? if it isn't okay i need prayer for strength to stop giving in to temptation. thanks for your answers.

Why don't you just go ahead and get married now?

Originally Posted by beautifulxdisastero7

i've been with my boyfriend for going on 3 years. we have a baby together. he's catholic and i'm christian. he believes that if you love someone and are just with that person that it's okay to have sex before you're married. i was taught different. well, something happened recently that is kind of personal. but it made me think that maybe God did it to show me i need to stop having sex until i get married. we are getting married really soon. soon as in a month or less. anyways after this happened i told myself and God that i would stop and wait til we did get married. i was so strong about it. but this weekend i messed up and had sex and now i feel so horrible. i asked for forgiveness but i'm scared God is getting tired of me asking since i ask everytime i have sex. does he forgive me? is my boyfriend right about its okay if you love someone and are about to marry them? if it isn't okay i need prayer for strength to stop giving in to temptation. thanks for your answers.

Its perfectly fine to have sex before marriage, especially since you have a baby with the guy already. I think the reason you are upset is that your religion has imposed this restriction on you. Free your mind from religious restrictions and you've got nothing to worry about.

[mpayne1589]

Hi

I have a brother who is not a christian, but he has sex with his girlfriend which he knows that i strongly protest.

however i have begun to notice that his life outside of the bedroom has suffered, he does not treat his friends or me with the respect he used to, which unfortuannly causes fights between me and him, i should not retalilat, but sometimes it is hard not too.

anyhow, i also notice that when she comes over the house from college, they go right to the bedroom and sleep all weekend, they dont get out of bed, but most of the reason for this is because he is a non-beliver and this may not fully pertain to the situation you are in.

i just say that sex before marrage is wrong, furthermore, if you know that it is wrong and do it anyhow then asking for forgivness can be that much harder.

its like your parents telling you over and over again to treat them with respect and then disrespecting them and asking for for forgivness right after.

if thats a good anogly

i pray that through god you understand and try to change, through jesus we can do all things

God Bless

michael.p

[walkinthespirit]

Originally Posted by beautifulxdisastero7

i've been with my boyfriend for going on 3 years. we have a baby together. he's catholic and i'm christian. he believes that if you love someone and are just with that person that it's okay to have sex before you're married. i was taught different. well, something happened recently that is kind of personal. but it made me think that maybe God did it to show me i need to stop having sex until i get married. we are getting married really soon. soon as in a month or less. anyways after this happened i told myself and God that i would stop and wait til we did get married. i was so strong about it. but this weekend i messed up and had sex and now i feel so horrible. i asked for forgiveness but i'm scared God is getting tired of me asking since i ask everytime i have sex. does he forgive me? is my boyfriend right about its okay if you love someone and are about to marry them? if it isn't okay i need prayer for strength to stop giving in to temptation. thanks for your answers.

Wow, you have had a lot of advice!

I wouldn't listen to Antonio, he doesn't obey God's laws. If he's a Dr. I better do some praying, if hes operating on me! I think he draws his words of the day from a fortune cookie, God bless you Antonio!

I like Dr. Franks opinions, usually. But when he posted this, I was totally confused, as to what he was trying to say.

Daniel has some good words. Lady Shanti has good advice, if you want to indeed marry this man, and have sex. Obviously the Spirit is trying to convict you beautiful. Have you asked God, what HE wants for you? Have you asked HIM if this man is the one HE wants for you? Have you asked HIS will for your life?

Personally, when the Lord convicted me, I didn't allow any unmarried people to sleep together under my roof.
And like Daniel, I had sex before marriage. I wasn't saved at the time, but that doesn't matter, sin is sin.

If God is convicting you, it means He wants you to clean up that area of your life. And theres your answer, may you heed the Spirit, in the area that God wants to clean up.

Deu 19:15 One witness is not enough to convict a man accused of any crime or offense he may have committed. A matter must be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.
WO:

[Dewayne]

Originally Posted by walkinthespirit

Wow, you have had a lot of advice!

I wouldn't listen to Antonio, he doesn't obey God's laws. If he's a Dr. I better do some praying, if hes operating on me! I think he draws his words of the day from a fortune cookie, God bless you Antonio!

I like Dr. Franks opinions, usually. But when he posted this, I was totally confused, as to what he was trying to say.

Daniel has some good words. Lady Shanti has good advice, if you want to indeed marry this man, and have sex. Obviously the Spirit is trying to convict you beautiful. Have you asked God, what HE wants for you? Have you asked HIM if this man is the one HE wants for you? Have you asked HIS will for your life?

Personally, when the Lord convicted me, I didn't allow any unmarried people to sleep together under my roof.
And like Daniel, I had sex before marriage. I wasn't saved at the time, but that doesn't matter, sin is sin.

If God is convicting you, it means He wants you to clean up that area of your life. And theres your answer, may you heed the Spirit, in the area that God wants to clean up.

Deu 19:15 One witness is not enough to convict a man accused of any crime or offense he may have committed. A matter must be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.
WO:

very very very goood, I also will not allow it under my roof, and I have two teenage boys, and yea what antonio has told you is rotton to the core! you have a child, what will you want that child to do when that time comes in its life?

[walkinthespirit]

Originally Posted by Dewayne

very very very goood, I also will not allow it under my roof, and I have two teenage boys, and yea what antonio has told you is rotton to the core! you have a child, what will you want that child to do when that time comes in its life?

rofl, Im choking up over here buddy, my husband is shakey head

lol WO: