[TheCarpenter]

My ex-wife (a term I hate using) and I were together for 25 years but divorced 7 months ago. Mistake! We still love each other very much and have 3 beautiful kids still at home. We are trying to work things out and it is going very well. We know how god feels about divorce . I hope to remarry her someday. My question is "How does god feel about the two of us making love given the divorce and still not remarried?" Is this seen as a sin? I believe she is still my wife in gods eyes but still unsure.

[DesiringMore71]

well carpenter, i dont know very much about your situation, but i know God loves you very much.. one time i asked my pastor what to do and he said something that i think would help every situation "if you are unsure if (your questions is) 100% for Jesus" then just wait. Make things right then you will know... so i guess if you are doubting, as much as you love her... the wait can only build your relationship, and if you havent already... work on devos with her! God bless ya

I will be praying that God points the both of you in the right direction!

[Mark]

Hello TheCarpenter,

Welcome to the community. I think you probably already know the answer to your own question... wait until you're officially remarried.

The only thing that says that you're divorced is a piece of paper that was ok'd by man and the only thing that will say that you're re-married is a piece of paper ok'd by man. You're still married if you didn't break-up because of fornication or adultery. That's what Jesus said

[QuikstepnGrl]

Well...if you got divorced..maybe there's a reason.

Maybe holding off on the sex until you can work out your
differences will enhance your relationship for the future.

Love waits....

Originally Posted by TheCarpenter

My ex-wife (a term I hate using) and I were together for 25 years but divorced 7 months ago. Mistake! We still love each other very much and have 3 beautiful kids still at home. We are trying to work things out and it is going very well. We know how god feels about divorce . I hope to remarry her someday. My question is "How does god feel about the two of us making love given the divorce and still not remarried?" Is this seen as a sin? I believe she is still my wife in gods eyes but still unsure.

You may be divorced based on the law of the land, but you are still married based on the law of God. So enjoy each other, you are not really divorced.

(1Cor 7:39) The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.

[WilliamtheConqueror]

Originally Posted by blujon1

You may be divorced based on the law of the land, but you are still married based on the law of God. So enjoy each other, you are not really divorced.

(1Cor 7:39) The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.

1Cor 7:39 It would be great if preachers took that verse at face value, however most of them don't.

[Beauty1]

Originally Posted by TheCarpenter

My ex-wife (a term I hate using) and I were together for 25 years but divorced 7 months ago. Mistake! We still love each other very much and have 3 beautiful kids still at home. We are trying to work things out and it is going very well. We know how god feels about divorce . I hope to remarry her someday. My question is "How does god feel about the two of us making love given the divorce and still not remarried?" Is this seen as a sin? I believe she is still my wife in gods eyes but still unsure.

If your saved and right with the Lord; I would encourage you to seek the Lord for yourself on this matter. God will give you the answer. Your asking how does God feel - is it not better to find that out from Him? Rather than asking somebody else.

My opinion is that if your divorced according to the laws of the land, then this is a binding contract as well as the marriage contract. One cancels the other out. If your making love to your divorced wife the word states its better to marry than to burn.. Renew the contract with her then make love.

Originally Posted by DesiringMore71

well carpenter, i dont know very much about your situation, but i know God loves you very much.. one time i asked my pastor what to do and he said something that i think would help every situation "if you are unsure if (your questions is) 100% for Jesus" then just wait. Make things right then you will know... so i guess if you are doubting, as much as you love her... the wait can only build your relationship, and if you havent already... work on devos with her! God bless ya

I will be praying that God points the both of you in the right direction!

I am quoting this particular response as the wisdom found in such a young persons response is profound. As it has been said, in the above post by Beauty as well, ask God. The wait can't hurt your relationship but only help it and in the wait perhaps you could work through those things with a pastor or counselor which caused you to divorce to begin with. It may be that some may disagree but the physical can tend to cloud sometimes those things which need to be addressed. May God grant you His wisdom and knowledge in this situation. May God Bless you both.

Wow what Mari and 71 says is a double wammy of wisdom. It's up to you but I'd follow it.
Good luck
antonio
Born Again American