I have a friend who is in the process of getting to know this guy. The guy has been celibate for 9 years and has said that he is not having sex until he gets marrried.

They're halfway plannig a trip for her birthday and are thinking about just getting one room. (It is a recession you know?) Is that good or bad. Neither one of them want to be having sex right now so that isn't an issue for either of them.

[Mark]

I would say it would be a bad idea.

[Dewayne]

I also think it would be a bad ideal, for me it would. but then again how mature or we? If sex is not the issue, then to them who cares they and God will only know the truth. but on the other hand, people will talk no matter what, Yea to me it would be a bad ideal.

[Soulheart3]

I think we like to believe we have the fortitude to avoid temptation, and sometimes we may. Yet scripture says to flee temptation, and I would have to agree, and it would be hard to flee in 1 room when you still want some rest. I know for me, in the past, I have thought I had the fortitude to reject temptation, but I failed. Now I avoid the situations that lead to temptation.

you wrote

Is that good or bad. Neither one of them want to be having sex right now so that isn't an issue for either of them.

1. Either they are liars or they don't love each other (for purposes of marriage)
What's a"bad idea: is their denial either regarding their desire for sex or their serious interest in marriage (in the traditional sense)--either way. They should step back and be honest with themselves and with each other.

And it gets more serious,you wrote, 2.

have a friend who is in the process of getting to know this guy. The guy has been celibate for 9 years and has said that he is not having sex until he gets marrried.

I see a big red scary flag here. I wonder how this gentleman defines "celibacy?" If this was a friend of mine, I would shove her up against the wall and demand some facts---lots of facts.

Let us know how it comes out.

Originally Posted by Soulheart3

I think we like to believe we have the fortitude to avoid temptation, and sometimes we may. Yet scripture says to flee temptation, and I would have to agree, and it would be hard to flee in 1 room when you still want some rest. I know for me, in the past, I have thought I had the fortitude to reject temptation, but I failed. Now I avoid the situations that lead to temptation.

The statement you made about temptation is so funny to me. Just because two people of the opposite sex are alone together doesn't mean that there is any temptation there to have sex.

But thanks for the reply.

Originally Posted by Dewayne

I also think it would be a bad ideal, for me it would. but then again how mature or we? If sex is not the issue, then to them who cares they and God will only know the truth. but on the other hand, people will talk no matter what, Yea to me it would be a bad ideal.

Thanks Dewayne.

Just because he has a ______ and she has a _____ doesn't automatically mean that the two members have to touch. That's ridiculous!!!! How mature are we?

People will talk...that's true, but who's going to know that they went on a trip together? LOL .

Because they are both well known in the church that they attend, they keep how close they are to themselves because church folk are nooooooossssseeeeeeeeyyyyyy. I think the Pastor knows and that's it. And then again, he may not even know because it's so new.

To Those who think about the temptation thing.

How can there be temptation where there is no temptation?

[walkinthespirit]

Originally Posted by antonio

you wrote 1. Either they are liars or they don't love each other (for purposes of marriage)
What's a"bad idea: is their denial either regarding their desire for sex or their serious interest in marriage (in the traditional sense)--either way. They should step back and be honest with themselves and with each other.

And it gets more serious,you wrote, 2. I see a big red scary flag here. I wonder how this gentleman defines "celibacy?" If this was a friend of mine, I would shove her up against the wall and demand some facts---lots of facts.

Let us know how it comes out.

I see a big red scary flag every time you post...lol

WIS--Truth will have that effect on people, sometimes.