[LovingHimWithEveryStep]

What is your view on the age you should become engaged?



My friend KC has had her boyfriend for about 4 months, and they are engaged. In high school. And their parents dont know. Honestly to me, that is the dumbest thing in the world. I tried to talk some sense into her, i was telling her how it was going to be an uphillbattle from now on and she replied with 'no it's not, obviously youve never been in love' that made me mad. I don't want to be in love. I'm not gonna throw away my life for someone. Except Jesus ( but i mean that in a good way). She wtold me her parents have nothing to do with her getting engaged(seriously) and that just becaus eshe was young didnt make a difference. Also, the week before that she told me how she wasnt sure she liked him anymore. I just dont understand.

O, and were TEENAGERS!!!!!!


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<333 Nikki

My Grandmother, and Grandfather were married in 1926, he was 18 years old, she was 13 years old, they were married until she passed away in 1979, 53 years.

I believe the difference between then and now is how children are being raised, there is less effort by parents now to properly discipline their children than there was then, children from my Grandparents time truly respected their parents and all other adults as some children should also do now.

That respet included those children asking for their parents advice, listening to their parents advice, then accepting that advice as good advice, and applying that advice to their lives.

Adults who have lived before us have experienced the reality of life, and know what is and what is not good for us.

I won't say that it is not a good for your friend to be engaged as a teen, but she should tell her parents and give them the respect they deserve as her parents, and allow them to share the good advice that I sure they have available for her.

God Bless!

Michael Loudermilk

[DesiringMore71]

LOL... i understand your frustration... however, if she is a true friend you need to love and support her... if you tell her what she can do... we both know that will just encourage her to do something wrong... even if she doesnt truely want to... try backing into from a different perspective... bring up diffreences.... but most of all just love her.. and help her... if its not GOD's will she will know... is she a christian?

[Kriizzle]

Originally Posted by LovingHimWithEveryStep

What is your view on the age you should become engaged?

My friend KC has had her boyfriend for about 4 months, and they are engaged. In high school. And their parents dont know. Honestly to me, that is the dumbest thing in the world. I tried to talk some sense into her, i was telling her how it was going to be an uphillbattle from now on and she replied with 'no it's not, obviously youve never been in love' that made me mad. I don't want to be in love. I'm not gonna throw away my life for someone. Except Jesus ( but i mean that in a good way). She wtold me her parents have nothing to do with her getting engaged(seriously) and that just becaus eshe was young didnt make a difference. Also, the week before that she told me how she wasnt sure she liked him anymore. I just dont understand.

O, and were TEENAGERS!!!!!!

Well, in your friend's case, I would say it has bad idea written all over it.

As far as teenagers getting married... I have a whole bunch of friends who have gotten married straight out of high-school. Mind you, a lot of them are also Christians, which would make the difference.
My theory is this. You should date someone a while before you even talk about marriage. (In my mind this qould equal years, but it does happen sooner.) If you've really talked about it, and thought it out, I think then it's fine. I don't see an issue with it.

[matthew]

i was very young when my wife and i were married i dont regret it at all i was 18 and she was 16 we have had alot of problems.before i was saved i was very mean to her i think part of it was that i was too young im now 30 and we will celebrate our 13th year in aug.so i cant say for them not to do it but if i had it to do over i (and she agrees) we would have waited i think high school is to early for either of them to know what they want.

-pastor
matthew parton

[coachnathan]

Originally Posted by LovingHimWithEveryStep

What is your view on the age you should become engaged?

At least 25 years old. I know everyone wants to learn life for themselves the hard way. I did. I didn't listen to those old people. I went ahead and messed up my life just like they said I would, just like they had when they were young, and just like your friend probably will. Life is an endless cycle and very few people learn anything from the previous generation.

Generally, people who wait until they get educated and establish themselves financially before starting a family lead much more successful and satisfying lives. Think about the children who will enevitibly come along. Their lives will be much better with more mature parents able care for them better.

I'm not trying to be a know it all or anything. I just got humble at an early age because of th life decisions I made. I try to teach my kids this too. I have four, hopefully they will listen.