[LovingHimWithEveryStep]

me and my dad used to be the greatest. He was my hero and i loved him. but as ive grown older weve both started growing colder. This weekend we got into a huge fight. I wanted to go to church and he didnt understand why becuz he doesnt know that i have become saved. I just told him i wanted to go because i liked it and he kept saying that he knew i was lying to him.
Well it went down and he said this isn't like you to go tochurch. SO i replied with how do u know what i normally do??
and he said"i just do"
i said, "its not like your ever home enough to even know me"
Its the truth, but i regretted saying it. The truth hurts. O and by the way the reason i said that is because hes a truck driver, so hes out for days at a time. but when hes home, he only talks to me when he HAS to. It really depresses me.
I can recall a time when some1 asked me about my dad and i replied " i dont have a dad".
Me and his relationship is just broken. I wish i knew why he didnt love me, or why he loves me, but never talks to me. It makes me so depressed.
After our little fight this weekend, he taslked to me and basically blamed me for everything. i dont know why he cant love me. I cry myself to sleep sometimes because i wish he did.

Please help. Im desperate :[[

[Beauty1]

LHWES

I can tell you from personal experience that as a teenager it seems like "its me against them". When in reality it isn't that way at all. He may not be home as you wish he was. But next time he is home ask your dad out on a date. Just you and him. Let this be the beginning of a NEW relationship with him. Give him the opportunity to get to know his new daughter. Forgive him for his mistakes as a father. Your obligated to do this as a child of the Most High God. Forgive your dad; and begin to form a new relationship with him now. After all Your a New Person now!!! God Bless

[Dewayne]

Dear Loving, I to was a truck driver for 25 years, and raised two boys durning this time. I know from experance, when I was at home Boy I was tired and didnt want to talk or be around anybody. But I didnt do that I always made time for my wife and boys and have not regretted it. Sherry told me that somtimes she and the boys would have to work harder at a relationship with me at times. I know its hard for a driver who has beem by him self for days at a time then come home to someone. Just keep praying and let the Lord lead you. and its great that you have just been saved!! maybe you need to pray and tell your dad that, never know what kind of seed you will plant there for the LORD.

[walkinthespirit]

I think there is much wisdom in these comments.

You also need to be in prayer, the enemy is going to try and hurt you now that you are in JESUS, and the first people he will use , is our families. ask the Lord what your weakness is, because this is the first place the enemy will use, he will use our weakness against us...say you have a spirit of anger, the enemy will try to cause strife, and cause you to be angry. so ask the Lord to release the opposite of your weakness...so if anger is your weakness, ask HIm to release, peace and joy and love and patience from heaven....but stay in prayer ALWAYS!

LOVE YOUR SISTER FAITH

[AmazingGrace]

Originally Posted by LovingHimWithEveryStep

me and my dad used to be the greatest. He was my hero and i loved him. but as ive grown older weve both started growing colder. This weekend we got into a huge fight. I wanted to go to church and he didnt understand why becuz he doesnt know that i have become saved. I just told him i wanted to go because i liked it and he kept saying that he knew i was lying to him.
Well it went down and he said this isn't like you to go tochurch. SO i replied with how do u know what i normally do??
and he said"i just do"
i said, "its not like your ever home enough to even know me"
Its the truth, but i regretted saying it. The truth hurts. O and by the way the reason i said that is because hes a truck driver, so hes out for days at a time. but when hes home, he only talks to me when he HAS to. It really depresses me.
I can recall a time when some1 asked me about my dad and i replied " i dont have a dad".
Me and his relationship is just broken. I wish i knew why he didnt love me, or why he loves me, but never talks to me. It makes me so depressed.
After our little fight this weekend, he taslked to me and basically blamed me for everything. i dont know why he cant love me. I cry myself to sleep sometimes because i wish he did.

Please help. Im desperate :[[

Wow. My heart goes out to you. your relationship with your dad is soooooo important! So many things come to my mind, but I will just say this for now:
1. Remember, God loves you unconditionally, with perfect love. You can never get God to love you any MORE or any LESS than He does right now. Don't let Satan fool you into thinking that God looks at you the same way your dad does. He doesn't. Human dads are far from perfect. Sounds like your dad may be struggling with some heavy things that you don't know about, that have changed how he relates to you.
2. As your grow in your new realtionship with Christ, you will experience God's power to be patient with your father and love him in spite of his imperfections and neglect.
3. Pray daily for your dad. God wants to save him, and this all may be part of God getting ready to unite your whole family in Christ.
4. Ask God to show you where you may need to ask your dad to forgive you for any disrespect or rebellion you have shown toward him. Even though he has apparently wronged you, God wants you to take care of your part of the problem. (I am not saying your dad treats you that way because of your actions! This is all more than likely about HIM and HIS struggles than it is about you.)
5. If at all possible, find a good, Bible-believing, teaching church and get with a godly woman there who can help you grow and understand all of this. If they have a good youth group there, get involved, assuming your dad will let you do that.

[DoneThat]

Originally Posted by LovingHimWithEveryStep

me and my dad used to be the greatest. He was my hero and i loved him. but as ive grown older weve both started growing colder. This weekend we got into a huge fight. I wanted to go to church and he didnt understand why becuz he doesnt know that i have become saved. I just told him i wanted to go because i liked it and he kept saying that he knew i was lying to him.
Well it went down and he said this isn't like you to go tochurch. SO i replied with how do u know what i normally do??
and he said"i just do"
i said, "its not like your ever home enough to even know me"
Its the truth, but i regretted saying it. The truth hurts. O and by the way the reason i said that is because hes a truck driver, so hes out for days at a time. but when hes home, he only talks to me when he HAS to. It really depresses me.
I can recall a time when some1 asked me about my dad and i replied " i dont have a dad".
Me and his relationship is just broken. I wish i knew why he didnt love me, or why he loves me, but never talks to me. It makes me so depressed.
After our little fight this weekend, he taslked to me and basically blamed me for everything. i dont know why he cant love me. I cry myself to sleep sometimes because i wish he did.

Please help. Im desperate :[[

Hi There.

Wow I am surprised, If I loved my Dad and he can home and I was going
out anywhere and my Dad asked what I was going to be doing.



I WOULD HAVE ASKED MY DAD IF HE WANTED TO COME ALONG.
That if I had nothing to HIDE.

[MMari]

Originally Posted by AmazingGrace

Wow. My heart goes out to you. your relationship with your dad is soooooo important! So many things come to my mind, but I will just say this for now:
1. Remember, God loves you unconditionally, with perfect love. You can never get God to love you any MORE or any LESS than He does right now. Don't let Satan fool you into thinking that God looks at you the same way your dad does. He doesn't. Human dads are far from perfect. Sounds like your dad may be struggling with some heavy things that you don't know about, that have changed how he relates to you.
2. As your grow in your new realtionship with Christ, you will experience God's power to be patient with your father and love him in spite of his imperfections and neglect.
3. Pray daily for your dad. God wants to save him, and this all may be part of God getting ready to unite your whole family in Christ.
4. Ask God to show you where you may need to ask your dad to forgive you for any disrespect or rebellion you have shown toward him. Even though he has apparently wronged you, God wants you to take care of your part of the problem. (I am not saying your dad treats you that way because of your actions! This is all more than likely about HIM and HIS struggles than it is about you.)
5. If at all possible, find a good, Bible-believing, teaching church and get with a godly woman there who can help you grow and understand all of this. If they have a good youth group there, get involved, assuming your dad will let you do that.

Nikki,
I agree with much of what has been posted above. My heart goes out to you as well. I have read many of your threads and it appears that you have so many worries for such a young lady. Many of us have had dad's who have been less than perfect and it is very important to a young lady to have her dad's love and acceptance. It may be that your dad just doesn't know how to show it; it doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't love you. With him being gone so much as you say it only makes it more difficult because you see him so little and if those times aren't good it amplifies the negative.
As stated above God loves you and there is nothing you can do which will stop God from loving you. It may be difficult to realize this but it is true. If you have a bible with a concordance I encourage you to look up some scriptures on God's love for you. One particular passage I encourage you to look at is Psalms 139.
Nikki, you can only deal with one day at a time and put each day in God's hands, talk to him as your friend and tell him your concerns just as you tell us on this forum. These are all good things to journal about; especially about your dad. The most important thing you can do is to be respectful because he is your dad and God wants us to honor our parents. Keep it simple Nikki. Trust God to give you the answers, He understands your dad and he knows you Nikki and everything about what goes on between you and your dad.
The bible says that the birds of the air neither sow nor reap or store away in barns yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? Matthew 6:26
God will take care of you, you only need to reach out to Him. I can only say that Nikki as once I was your age and if it were not for God I wouldn't be here today; God is faithful. Nikki, let go and let God bathe you in His love, let us who are here hold you in prayer; I am sure there are more than enough people who would agree to do that on this forum. Rest in God's love for you. We don't always have to be doing something. I will be praying for you little sister. God Bless you.

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[FollowerofChrist]

Because you're being guided by the Spirit of our Lord Jesus Christ and your father isn't. You need to fast and pray while asking our Lord to convert your whole family.

I'm a truck driver and I'm away from home 99% of the time. My situation is nothing like your situation, though. I'm away from home, but it's as if I'm not. My laptop is on 90% of the time I'm awake and it's connected (through the internet) to my wife's computer all the time. My wife, my son, and my daughter are not in the u.s., but it's like they're with me in the truck all the time. They can call me anytime they want and we talk to each other as long as we want; we even see each other through webcams. I get along with my wife and son (my daughter is one year old) fine. I'm already asking my Lord to help me find a job in my home country so I can be with my family all the time.

Your father needs our Lord Jesus Christ. Pray for him and you'll see how things change. God bless you.

[khigg]

I know this is a difficult time for you and that right now it seems worse than it is. You have something that your Dad does not have. You can pray for him to come to an understanding of Jesus. I will keep your situation in prayer. You have a community that cares for you and will uplift you in prayer. God Bless