Emotional abuse is the most prevalent form of abuse. It is also overlooked because those around us don’t hear or see what the abuser is saying or doing. Emotional abuse includes verbal abuse such as yelling, name-calling, blaming, and shaming. Isolation, intimidation, controlling behavior. The purpose of the abuser is to instill fear and or intimidate. The goal is to gain control of the other person.
Typically, the abuser is a parent, spouse, adult, child, dating partner, or friend. But these days it has been found even in some churches across the world. When you as the victim are being abused you take the words that have been said to you and start questioning your own self worth because the abuser has cut you to the very core. You may have tried to reach out to others for help but because the abuser will tend to represent himself in the opposite manner in front of others it makes it hard than for those around you to understand.
When you are being abused emotionally you first need to understand that you didn’t do anything to cause this nor are you to blame because the abuser gets angry. The abuser doesn’t normally show itself right away they gradually will work there way into tearing you down and making you solely responsible for everything that goes wrong. The abuser will do what they can to remove family, friends and convince you to turn your back on them. The sad part is that emotional abuse is just as hurtful as being physically abused yet is overlooked and seems to be accepted in today’s society. The abuse can wear the victim down and find it hard to trust others and always question there self-worth. They can suffer long term affects of anxiety, depression.
You may ask why does the victim stay with the abuser if in a relationship or report the abuser. The answer to that would be because the abuser has gained control and manipulated the victim to believe what was said or has threatened there life or love ones but in many cases the victim doesn’t see a way out. For years many continue to past judgment against the victim instead of reaching out to help them or turning your head and walking away saying “It’s not my business”. It is our business to reach out as Christians and help those in need. God commands us to love our bother and sisters as he loves us.
John 15:12 “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you…”
You as the victim may be feeling confused, lost like there is no hope and very alone. But I want you to know that your not alone God doesn’t want you to suffer and this isn’t the life he had planned for you. But in God’s Word we read this amazing truth: “Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit lives in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him; for God’s temple is sacred, and you are that temple.” 1 Corinthians 3:16, 17, NIV.
I often hear questions like if there is a God why did he allow this to happen to me? This question is often asked in many situations. My answer is this.. in the bible it states that God gave us free will. He allows us to make our own choices even when they are not pleasing to him. He does not want to see his children suffer. He loves us and when you turn your life over to God and pray and read his word you will understand that the love he has for us is the type of love he commands us to have and show for one another. He gives us the amour but he also is our strength and we are to lean upon him and believe and have faith that he will be there for you. You will never be alone because God will be there for you. Turn to him don’t ever give up on yourself because God is waiting for you! Ask God to help you in this situation you are in.
Melissa Parker: If you would like us to pray for you please post a comment letting us know or leave a comment of your own experience with Emotional Abuse. There is hope and you’re never alone. Our Ministry is dedicated to taking a stand in ending Abuse.